It’s not the outcome that matters. It’s the decision to act.
~ Chris Guillebeau

A few months ago I read Sebastian Marshall’s post about strategically checking off a bucket list and I continued to mull that idea over. I can do the same thing. Most of the items on my life list are things that I could do relatively easy with a direct application of time or money. Though I might not have the money at the moment, completing many of my goals will cost far less than I imagine, and I do have some time available if I make these goals a priority. So I came up with a new list to work toward for now.

I will be 30 in a few days. To start this decade off right I am going to focus on strategically completing a few of the goals on my bucket list, in addition to some goals that hadn’t quite made it to that list yet. In no particular order, here are the 30 things that I want to complete by February 6, 2013.

1. cross-country motorcycle trip
2. stop in DC to visit the Wall
3. read 1/2 of Personal MBA
4. have a business of my own
5. pay down school debt
6. become conversationally fluent in a language
7. hot air balloon ride
8. see Grand Canyon
9. become a publicly recognized expert
10. see moonbow (again)
11. see Northern Lights
12. read the Bible
13. buy an Airstream
14. take flying lessons – airplane
15. 30 informational interviews
16. make 30 things
17. learn to sail
18. hang glide
19. go on 30 dates
20. learn a skill of some sort – welding?
21. some sort of fitness goal – to be further defined
22. learn to program
23. go on 7 day backpacking trip
24. circumnavigate Land Between the Lakes
25. get in touch with old friends on a regular basis
26. move
27. buy coffee for 12 strangers
28. find 576 more geocaches
29. learn 5 magic tricks
30. visit the lower 48

Come back Monday to see how I plan on completing all of these.

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Sure, I sat down and came up with a long list of things to achieve this year, but it felt forced. And since it was forced I knew that, realistically, I wouldn’t be enthusiastic or driven enough to complete them.

Taking a break

Eventually I just decided to sit back and watch everyone else post their reviews and action plans. The stress lifted from my shoulders. I was still making progress, building things, reading and growing. Serendipity would take care of the rest.

The list grows

Apparently I was just starting too soon. Starting a new set of goals on January 1st just didn’t seem important to me, but February 6th seemed just about right. A list of goals seemed to grow of its own accord.

In a few days I will be entering my third decade upon earth. Anticipating this supposed milestone I have been tossing around ideas about how to celebrate it. Something epic, no doubt. The list that formed on its own has grown into the “30 in 30″ project.

30 in 30

During my 30th year I have compiled a list of thirty things that I want complete. Some are free while others will cost a decent amount. A few won’t take me long at all though others will take the whole year. A few will involve me spending time alone but most involve others. Easy and challenging. I tried to cover many things.

30 things to complete. Friday I’ll tell you what they are.

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Materialism is Inconsistent with Strong Marriages

Those of you who are choosing to live a more simple life may be heartened to know your decision bodes well for your marriage. Recent research has shown no matter what your income levels, a high level of materialism is correlated with marriages that struggle more, and that marriages with lower levels of materialism have higher levels of satisfaction. If both spouses are materialistic, the marriage has further struggles. Read more about this study on materialism and marital happiness.

Margaret and Phil are an example of a couple who choose to live in a counter-cultural way. Early in their marriage, they made a conscious decision not to accumulate too many possessions, and not to change their lifestyle as their incomes rose. Since Phil’s parents grew up in the Great Depression, he adopted some of their frugal ways, for example fixing what breaks instead of automatically buying new. They maintain an uncluttered, organized home.

I interviewed Phil and Margaret for my book, First Kiss to Lasting Bliss: Hope & Inspiration for Your Marriage, which profiles couples who overcame various challenges from drug addiction to infertility, child loss, infidelity, financial crises, military separation, depression, brain injury, stranger rape, opposing religions, disruptive families and much more. But this couple was an example for more of what they did right than for the obstacles that tripped them up. They made conscious lifestyle decisions early in their marriage that has guided them for decades.

When Phil was in medical school and Margaret was a teacher, it was easy to not accumulate too much, because they had very little money. As their incomes increased, they earmarked funds for charity, for mission trips, or long-term goals, such as the education of their two children. Their lifestyle choices allowed them to keep their priorities in check. For instance, Phil chose to provide medical care for indigent patients and doesn’t work overly long hours to advance his career. They have both been very satisfied in the ways they contribute to society and are satisfied with what they have materially.

Making mission trips with their young children also contributed to their view that they didn’t need more materialistic goods to be happy. They found many of the very poor people they met in travels were exceedingly happy despite their financial poverty. Phil and Margaret also have a strong faith that leads them to be generous with what they have.

More than 30 years into their marriage, they have no financial conflict in their marriage and are satisfied with what they have. They enjoy their four grandchildren. While Phil still works, Margaret is retired and has time for volunteer work that she finds fulfilling.

It’s so natural in our society to long for a bigger house, a nicer car, or finer clothes. This is not only because of ubiquitous advertising images, but also because we see friends and neighbors obtaining these goods regularly, whether they can afford to or not. But what do we trade those things for?

My husband and I made a conscious decision early in our marriage to not accumulate any credit card debt and to be wise with our spending. That includes the holiday season, which can be very difficult to manage without overbuying. However, I can also say that being in synch financially has allowed us to avoid virtually all financial conflict in our marriage. The freedom gained from living within our means far exceeds the joy we would obtain from accumulating more.

Experts say materialism often leads to poor financial decisions, resulting in debt and higher stress levels. They add that materialistic individuals spend less time nurturing their relationships with people and more time acquiring things, while non-materialistic people place a higher priority on relationships.

Don’t be afraid to make your own decisions about your lifestyle, even if it’s different from the culture that surrounds you. Invest in your marriage, and it will pay big dividends.

To learn about the other couples featured in the book, visit www.Facebook.com/LastingBliss. For more information about Lori or to purchase the book, visit www.LoriDLowe.com.

Thank you so much for the opportunity to join you today on Adventure-Some.com!

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If you’re tired of staying in chain hotels that look the same wherever you go, where you are just one of hundreds of other guests that check-in and check-out every day, then perhaps a boutique hotel will be more your style. Unique, sometimes quirky, full of little touches, and often small in size, these boutique hotels in Melbourne that we found from HotelClub.com are guaranteed to make your trip memorable.

Hotel Lindrum

This hotel has the benefit of being right in the heart of the city centre, yet without compromising on charm and character. First built in the early 1900s, the red brick Romanesque Revival style building was originally owned by tea merchants before becoming the headquarters for a newspaper and, finally, a beloved billiards hall. The stylish and cosy bar and billiard room now features one of the original billiard tables from the 60s. The hotel cleverly mixes heritage items with contemporary design and offers lots of lovely little extras such as free wireless internet and the loan of iPads.

The Cullen

This is the hotel of choice for lovers of contemporary art. The quirky hotel is named after Adam Cullen, one of Australia’s most controversial contemporary artists, whose art is featured throughout the hotel. His signature bright splashes of colour can be found everywhere and both the architecture and the design is influenced by his work. Rooms are spacious and feature kitchenettes, incredibly stylish contemporary furniture and ridiculously comfortable beds. Again, the focus is on the little extras – the minibars are
stocked with treats from the nearby Prahran Markets, iPods containing extensive playlists can be rented, as can Smart Cars, electric scooters and Classic Kronan bicycles.

The Lyall

Melbourne’s only privately owned and operated 5 star hotel, the award-winning Lyall screams luxury yet offers the intimacy and personality of a small hotel. Details such as a mini art gallery on each floor featuring the work of a local artist, a welcoming open fireplace in the lounge, a CD, DVD and book library, and bike rental, give it a home-away-from-home feel (albeit an uber-luxurious home!). Its one and two bedroom suites, Grand suites and Platinum Suite are furnished and decorated in a contemporary oriental style that is very conducive to winding down but if you need further relaxation the in-house spa is
excellent.

Pensione Hotel

If you want boutique style without having to fork out mega-bucks, the character-laden Pensione Hotel fits the bill nicely. Taking its cue from the friendly and stylish European pensione hotels, the boutique hotel is set in a stunning Victorian heritage-listed building with an interior that combines modern design, an earthy palette and original features. Its location in the heart of the trendy CBD, on the corner of Spencer and Flinders Streets, is unbeaten, as are its refreshingly low rates. The staff are incredibly friendly, the cafe and bar is fantastically chic, and there’s even a rooftop sundeck.

A leading accommodation website, Hotel Club offers deals on hotels across the globe, including many hotels in Melbourne.

1. On Top of the World! – Photo

School has just started back, so our schedules aren’t quite figured out yet. On top of that craziness I’m trying to figure out exactly what to do next year, since I’ll be done with school. I have a couple of ideas: one on how to continue my education without the torture of school, and a few on how to increase my income. With the finances such a part of my thinking here recently, I thought that I would share some of the resources that I’ve been looking at. You may notice that I prefer the idea of working for myself in some way, though at the moment I wouldn’t turn down a more traditional job offer.

24 Legit Home-Based Business Ideas
23 Ways to Make Money – it might say for teens, but anyone can make them work
Best of Paying the Bills
Paying the Bills
How to FreeLance – an excellent free guide on getting started freelancing

As I make some progress I will try to keep you updated a bit more frequently.

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What does all that information do?

Unfortunately, as good as I am about gathering information, I’m not nearly as good at acting on it. Knowing how to use it, yes. Creating plans of what and when to take the next step, certainly. Getting things done, not so much. So, for all the time I spend collecting information and learning what to do, I don’t actually get anything done.

Stop learning, start acting!

In order to combat this, I’m going to slow my learning. I don’t need to research, learn, or discover more. While I certainly don’t know everything, I know enough to get started. Progress will fuel my desire to learn more, but it will also help me to focus better, as I will then have more specific questions to find answers for.

What about you?

Are you an information gatherer or someone who takes action? Will you join me as I begin focusing on results instead of information?

Share what project you have been researching in the comments.

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How are you doing?

If you took the time to create an action plan, and set up a system that would enable you to automatically work toward your goals, you should already be seeing some progress.

Here’s what I’ve done

• Started working on my business
• Created website and initial content
• Wrote first ebook, that will be given away for free
• Had friends over for pizza and games
• Kept in touch with family and friends via phone or email
• Purchased a backrest and luggage rack for Ms. Peeps (a requirement for the spring break and summer trips)
• Read 5 books, with two more in progress and a third waiting for me at the library. Plus that book I’m reading for my class at school.
• Successfully avoided sodas, excluding the occasional IBC root beer, from the bottle.
• Continued sketching
• Scheduled participation in an art show in a gallery
• Built an easel and set up a work station so that I always have a work in progress ready to go.
• Planned out 12 dates, went on one, and scheduled February’s.
• Turned in the paperwork for my Business Minor.
• Turned in the paperwork for my Art History minor.

Wow! No wonder I’m tired. But I’m making progress, and it’s a wonderful feeling to look back and see how far I’ve come already, one step at a time.

What about you?

How are your goals progressing? If you’re not quite where you want to be, don’t forget that you can change your plans! After all, they’re your plans. Maybe that means just starting over at the beginning again. Perhaps you need to spread things out a bit further. Sometimes you just need to let some things drop. Whatever the case may be, don’t give up just because you’re not exactly where you want to be yet. You can get there!

Let us know how you’re doing, either through comments or email. I’m looking forward to hearing from you!

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The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.
~ St Augustine

The first book I read in 2010 was Vagabonding by Rolf Potts. Not only did I find it to be a delightful read, but also to be full of useful information. No matter if you want to travel or simply find more adventure in your daily life, Vagabonding has advice for you.

Here are some snippets for you:

• The hardest thing about travel is deciding to go. Once you’ve made that commitment, the rest is easy.
• Live richly instead of getting rich from life. Live well instead of “do well”.
• Money is needed to survive, of course, but time is what you need to live. So use money to meet basic survival requirements but spend time lavishly to create the life values that make the fire worth the candle.
• Monasticism on the move – on the road we often live more simply, with no more possessions than we can carry, and surrendering ourselves to chance.
• One the road, you should never forget that you are uniquely in control of your own agenda.
• If you view the world as a predominately hostile place, it will be. ~Ed Buryn (Likewise, a positive worldview can lead to inspiring, human-centric road experiences.)

Every chapter is full of useful information. Vagabonding is not so much a checklist of actions to take as it is a guidebook for how to look at the world. Who knows what you might learn!

Don’t ever live vicariously. This is your life. Live.

Get your copy and see how much better your life could be.

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What is it?

The goal of the Travel Hacking Cartel is to democratize free travel. Chris and his team plan to demystify the process of travel hacking. Our members can “go anywhere, anytime.”

What you get

1. Regular “Deal Alerts” sent via email and SMS/text message (when a big opportunity comes up, our members will be the first to know)
2. Tutorials and an extensive Knowledge Base to get people started (our research showed that most people have no idea what to do with miles and points… we’ll tell them)
3. The Refer-a-Hacker Program that pays members 500 Frequent Flyer Miles for each referral (we’ve tried to make this process extremely easy – everyone has their own referral link directly in their account settings)
4. The “World’s Greatest Guarantee” – if members follow our directions and spend at least 30 minutes a month travel hacking, they’ll earn enough miles for at least 1 plane ticket every quarter, or 4 plane tickets a year (we also provide info on how to redeem miles for great awards)

Maybe Monday’s post about Becoming a Frequent Flier Master piqued your interest. Here’s the chance to get more serious about it, to really earn those points and actually use them to go places!

Let’s Travel!

I don’t know about you, but I love the idea of getting to travel for free. My wife and I have a lot of places that we want to visit, and being able to get 4 free tickets a year, guaranteed! is definitely something we’ll be doing.

I’m already a member of the Travel Hacking Cartel. Won’t you join me? Let’s go traveling!

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Fortunately for both of us, Chris over at the Art of NonConformity has written a fabulous guide to help us out. Chris knows a few things about traveling, and making it affordable, since he’s given himself 5 years to visit every country in the world (and has visited more than 125 of them thus far). In this guide he has condensed the knowledge he has gained during more than 8 years of travels.

Frequent Flier Master

Become a Frequent Flier Master
No, you don’t have to actually frequently fly to make use of this guide, but it will help you be able to fly more often. There are numerous ways to earn frequent flier miles (almost half of which don’t involve having a credit card), and this guide comes with a fabulous “earn enough miles for a free ticket or your money back” guarantee.

 
What more could you ask for? A risk-free chance to earn enough frequent flier miles to fly for free. I’m going to be putting the information in that guide to use, because I want to start actually visiting those places on my list. Dreaming about them just isn’t enough.

What about you? Go check out the guide.

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